Dawn - Admin
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Dawn and the Cutiecavies
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Post by Dawn - Admin on Apr 10, 2007 20:56:40 GMT
I have been forced to add this post as just recently some of our Members have had some abusive emails and PM about how they look after their piggies.
This forum is for everyone to enjoy and talk about their piggies as well other pets, hobbies, interests and just have fun.
Offensive posts will not be tolerated anywhere on this forum.
Anyone who posts anything nasty or unpleasant about anyone on Cutiecavies or how they care for their own piggies will be removed and banned.
Just have fun and if you don't agree with something someone else posts, don't say anything at all.
Dawn
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Post by ccc on Apr 11, 2007 5:40:39 GMT
Who decides if a post is offensive, nasty or unpleasant? Admin, mods, the person on the receiving end, a general forum vote? I'm concerned they may be a chance for people here to get away with poorer qualities of care because no-one can say anything without laying it bare. Let me try and explain...
Someone may hear something about, say their pigs diet, and someone else may point out that such and such a food is total junk and unhealthy for pigs etc., and the original person may take it as offensive and unfair, cruel and so on - no matter how the post was written.
e.g.
"That food is complete junk, it would be a wise idea of try out "this brand", " this brand" or "this brand" of pellet as they are nutritionally much healthier. The one you are feeding now is strongly believed to contain cancer-causing additives/preservatives and is only pleasing to the human eye, not to piggies eyes. It's kind of like the piggie equivalent of feeding candy or biscuits day in day out.
More often than not, it's the way it's interpreted by different people, not always what's written. What was typed above - which was written politely but it gave the facts - could be interpreted as "Oh, I didn't know that! Well I have 3 other choices so let's see what I can do about it" OR it can be interpreted as "What, are you some kind of piggie food nutritionist or something?? What the heck do you know?? How dare you tell me what food to feed!?!"
You then get other people who feed the food or who are just simply 'friends' with the poster defending him/her and saying that it's perfectly okay and again - "what would you know because you haven't been there and seen the happy and healthy pigs for yourself?"
I know some people are straight to the point and care far more about the welfare of the pigs than some of the people, but can you see what I'm saying?
I see the message of your post, but maybe it needs to be there, in plain letters - say your piece politely. If you don't agree with something someone is doing, and you really have to say your piece but know you'll get a load of 'defenders' tangled up in between you, deal with it privately. It is then not the responsibility of Dawn and the whole forum what happens between each of you - it is your own responsibility to be sure you explain your tone of typing and settle things.
Don't take this as a bad post - I'm telling you how I'm reading it KNOWING why you've made this thread. Maybe I'm reading too far between the lines, but I think a few things just need clearing up a bit.
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Dawn - Admin
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MOTM May 2006, TPOTM Nov 2007
Dawn and the Cutiecavies
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Post by Dawn - Admin on Apr 11, 2007 13:42:42 GMT
This is already set out in the Cutiecavies guidelines and there are ways to say things aren't there?
I am not saying everyone should just go along with everything that others say if they think it is wrong but they could choose how to say things in a nice way so as to get their point accross but not upset anyone do we all agree?
Dawn
P.S. These are the exact words already written in the Cutiecavies Guidelines.
"It is ok to disagree with someone, just make your point politely and without attacking the other Mem'ber.
We are each entitled to our own opinions." and "If you have a problem with someone, the forum is not the place for you to argue. Please take it elsewhere.
We would like this forum to be a friendly place for piggy lovers to gather."
I've been to boards where all they do is argue and it gets very annoying and turns newer and prospective Mem'bers off really fast."
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Post by perfectpaws92 on Jun 24, 2009 19:56:51 GMT
I think everyone who visits sites like this obviously care about there pets a great deal. Otherwise they would be playing games, on facebook or something. Everyone who is on here takes a great deal of interest in their pet and meeting other people with the same interest (Of course, thats why im here!). So, if there is something posted that someone thinks is bad, such as feeding their pet the wrong food .. I don't think they would intentionally harm their pet .. so yes we should point out the problem, but in a polite way. If i was doing something wrong, I would want to be told! That's one of the biggest reasons i come onto sites like this!
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